I see it in the face of my patients every time they walk through the door.
Confusion. Chaos. Disorientation. Was this what their live’s had plan for them all along? How could this be? They have done everything right. Yet they are finding themselves in a place where they feel like the biggest failures. What has happened?
I see them rapidly break down into sobs of desperation to the point they can’t breathe anymore. Or maybe the first time they can, as they vent out their hurts, pain, and frustration that these sufferings are bringing into their lives.
I was talking to my friend on the subject of suffering in today’s society. How people end up going through a tough time, whether physical, emotional, or psychological, and the first thing they question is why they have to suffer. For years I’ve see young and old patients come through the door dumbfounded, as if they hit a lottery that they did not want to win.
So I am writing this here to remind you of something.
Suffering affects all of us.
Yes, all of us. One way or another, it affects every single one of us. Those that are suffering feel like they are the only person in the world going through it. They also feel as if they do not deserve this. As if suffering is something that some deserve.
Truth be told, we are all suffering.
Whether in loud burst of tears and anger, or in quiet desperation. We are all going through things.
That sense or place of normalcy that we all want to experience, really does not exist. We can only create it by changing our focus, not our circumstances.
And those are moments. Moments like the ones you put up on Instagram, or Facebook. Moments like the one we share with the world, as if we lived euphoric lives. Knowing we are desperately suffering.
Suffering to allow us to differentiate between times in our lives.
Suffering that allows us to grow, and mature into the humans we are called to be. Producing a brilliance is that is unmatched.
Part of every human.
Simply put, what helps us breathe, once again.